At first I was going to rant on twitter about indecisive callers, but honestly that's kind of unproductive. I also needed to blog, badly. I thought, why not kill two birds with one stone and try to help out potential clients with a series about getting more from your phone sex operators. While this is more geared towards PSO's, I'm sure you can glean information that is applicable to any sex worker.
Looking for a phone sex operator is kind of like trying to decide on what ice cream to get. We come in so many flavors and sometimes when you log onto Niteflirt, or wherever you go for a phone companion (but let's be honest, you should really be sticking with Niteflirt), you have one flavor in mind but then see another that looks even more delicious and forget about the first. It happens. But eventually you do have to decide.
The chat conversation above happened over the course of two days on Niteflirt. To my recollection this potential client never called me. I know by my replies I might seem like the Jordan Schlansky of PSO's. I'm not, I promise. It is exceedingly rare that I get a person who can't give me any answer or direction at all to any of these questions. This is equivalent to going to an ice cream shop and holding up the line while saying, 'I don't know what to eat, what do you want me to eat?' or more pointedly, 'What do you want to eat? I'll just eat that.'
I'm not hungry, I'm working.
This right here is the most important thing to remember. Who says I'm in the mood for anything at all? Sometimes I'm not, but I take calls and answer chats and e mails because it's my job to do so. It doesn't mean I don't like those interactions or calls, and it doesn't mean that I haven't gotten into the mood in the process of the call. Either way, I can still work even if I'm 'not in the mood'.
Another thing to consider, the way I see my job is to provide companionship or fetish based companionship/interactions. You are going to get a better interaction with me if you tell me what type of interaction you want. Even something as simple as just wanting to masturbate with each other listening to each other moan and enjoy ourselves. Simple, perfect, something I can work with and maybe we can build from there if we decide to later. At least with that I can direct you to the correct line to call because I do have lines other than domination. Some of those lines are very expensive because they require more work or, as is the case of my financial domination line, the expense is part of the fetish. Letting me decide can be dangerous for your wallet and I might decide on something that you don't even want or are into. If that happens you might never call me again because you think we're not a good match when really there was nothing for me to match to begin with. Or worse, you might leave a bad review because you weren't able to get what you wanted in the end. That's not fair to either of us. You and I both deserve my best.
Take some time before you call. Try to think, if I was watching porn right now what would I be watching? Telling me that can actually give me a bit of insight into what you might want. Give some thought about some of the kinks or even sexual positions that are your favorites. Something that's always a crowd pleaser for you for if you really just can't think of anything. Maybe it's not something sexual you're after at all. Maybe it's more intimacy that you're missing and you might want to call a girlfriend experience type of line where there is more conversation to be expected. If that's the case you might be bored or dissatisfied with just straight sex and moaning. Even if it's really great, needing intimacy specifically is going to keep you wanting more.
My job entails doing a lot of things, deciding on your base fetish and need is not one of them. I, and the rest of my fellow workers, are not TV's you can just change a channel on. As living, breathing humans you have to actually communicate with us. If you're not willing to do that then you're probably better off clicking through porn clips until your libido decides to kick in.
Now decide on a flavor and move it along, you're holding up the line and other people want a scoop.